What does coaching ask of you?
To be successful, coaching asks certain things, all of which begin with intention. Additionally, you would:
Focus on yourself, the tough questions, the hard truths and your success.
Observe the behaviours and communications of others.
Listen to your own intuition, assumptions, judgements, and to the way you sounds when you speak.
Challenge existing attitudes, beliefs and behaviours and develop new ones that serve your goals in the best way.
Leverage personal strengths and overcome limitations to develop a winning style.
Take decisive actions, however uncomfortable and despite personal insecurities, to reach for the extraordinary.
Show compassion for yourself while learning new behaviours and experiencing setbacks, and to show that compassion for others as they do the same.
Commit to not take yourself so seriously, using humour to lighten and brighten any situation.
Maintain composure in the face of disappointment and unmet expectations, avoiding emotional reactivity.
Have the courage to reach for more than before while engaging in continual self-examination without fear.
Within the partnership, what does the coach do? The individual?
I provide objective assessment and observations that foster your self-awareness and awareness of others.
I listen closely to fully understand your circumstances.
Act as a sounding board in exploring possibilities and implementing thoughtful planning and decision making.
Champion opportunities and potential, encouraging stretch and challenge commensurate with personal strengths and aspirations.
Foster shifts in thinking that reveal fresh perspectives.
Challenges blind spots to illuminate new possibilities and support the creation of alternative scenarios.
Maintains professional boundaries in the coaching relationship, including confidentiality, and adhere to the coaching profession’s code of ethics.
Creates the coaching agenda based on personally meaningful coaching goals.
Uses assessment and observations to enhance self-awareness and awareness of others.
Envisions personal and/or organisational success.
Assumes full responsibility for personal decisions and actions.
Utilises the coaching process to promote possibility thinking and fresh perspectives.
Takes courageous action in alignment with personal goals and aspirations.
Engages big-picture thinking and problem-solving skills.
Takes the tools, concepts, models and principles provided by the coach and engages in effective forward actions.
Ask yourself the following questions:
What is your willingness to learn…
What are you willing to do?
How much time are you willing to invest?
How much effort are you willing to put in?
How much money are you willing to spend?
What are you willing to sacrifice?
What are you willing to give up to learn this?
What is your willingness to change…
How ready are you to change?
How accepting are you of change?
What is your willingness to change how you think?
What is your willingness to change how you feel?
Being closed and rigid will keep you where you are, while being open for new learning and change will certainly provide a much-needed platform for growth and healthy change.
Being coachable means you’re leaving room for the possibility that there’s something you haven’t learned yet that could make you even better.
Be open to that possibility.
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